The effective leader knows the secret of the herd instinct, and more importantly knows how to harness it, writes Michael McQueen.
We all like to believe we are rational agents who aren’t controlled by our physical world. But research is proving this to be far from the truth.
It’s just plain hard for a child with ADHD symptoms to stop themselves doing what they want to do now, even if it’s not helpful.
Many parents hold the belief that if we don’t discipline our children, they’ll grow up to be out of control, but spanking is not discipline.
Children are more likely to learn from their errors and poor decisions when they feel safe from anger and punishment, even when they get things wrong.
When it comes to motivating behaviour, it is undeniable that fear is a strong motivator. But why does it work? And what does it actually do?
Regardless of whether your child wins or loses, you’re winning right? They’re at sport… but how do we handle bad sportsmanship?
Ironically, it’s when we stop throwing our authority around and focus instead on building our relationship with our children that they begin to feel safe. We become trustworthy and our influence grows.
I asked, “How did Abbie feel when you did that?” Her reply: “Sad”. I asked, “What is the best way to help her feel good?”
Our job is not to hurt our children when they do the wrong thing. Instead, we will get the best results when we work with our children; teaching, guiding, and instructing.